Different Attachment Types Resulting From Neglect

Attachment types are defined as patterns of behaviors that people display in relationships. Some of these behaviors can stem from neglect as a child or even as an adult. The attachments form through various ways of bonding. The common thought process is that attachment types form from the type of care a child experiences.

Neglect and abuse are the most common factors of attachment types. Neglect is a pattern of behavior found in adults who ignore, dismiss, or minimize the needs of a child. Whether it is emotional or physical in nature, neglecting the needs of a child can have ramifications that will affect many aspects of adulthood.

What are the attachment types?

Four attachment types have been noted through the attachment theory. The type of attachment is related to the type of neglect the person may have experienced.

Secure. 

This is the ideal type of attachment that children should have with their parents. It is built on safety, stability, and consistency. The child knows that the parent is trustworthy, and has a healthy sense of love and acceptance. This attachment style is a basis for what security means to the child.

In a secure attachment, a child:

• Has positive emotional responses toward the parent.
• Experiences a sense of security in the relationship with the parent whether present or not.
• Can be his or her own person even when not participating in the parent-child dynamic.

Avoidant. 

This type of attachment stems from the emotional needs of the child being ignored or dismissed. Typically, it is evident when a parent does not respond to a child who is reaching out for support or affection. Children with this type of attachment portray strong independent/self-sufficient behaviors.

Children with avoidant attachment disorder may:

• Experience emotional distance from others.
• Disconnect from feelings.
• Have trouble expressing empathy or connection.

Anxious. 

When a parent or caregiver is inconsistent in their parenting, it can cause anxiety. Inconsistency lacks the structure that is needed for children to experience stability. Not knowing the daily routine or structure can interfere with the expectations that a child has concerning healthy emotional connections.

Children with anxious attachment disorder may:

• Be too trusting.
• Display intense emotional responses when left by parents.
• Show clinginess toward parents.

Disorganized/Fearful-avoidant. 

This type of attachment is often a result of trauma, abuse, and neglect. Children who experience parents who are a source of fear rather than a source of safety often pivot back and forth between emotions with parents. They want to be close to others, but because of the fear, they push away.

Children with this disorder may experience:

• Confusion in the interaction/dynamic of the parent-child relationship.
• Insecurity in how to respond to a parent.
• Difficulty trusting.

Counseling for children with attachment issues.

If you feel that your child is suffering from an attachment issue, it is important to reach out to a Christian counselor in your area. Through Bible-based activities, you can learn how to strengthen the bond you have with your child. Your child can develop a sense of security through consistent counseling and the development of positive interactions.

Contact a Christian counselor today to get help with your child who may have an avoidant, anxious, or disorganized attachment disorder.